Looking for Hope

First Snow © 2012 Jane Waterman
First Snow © 2012 Jane Waterman

It’s a bit of a rough time. I just spent some time outdoors in the chill air, which I love, and got to thinking a bit about my walking meditation of last winter. I thought a little about my dreams of the labyrinth too, but sensed the ambition too great, and returned to thinking about walking meditation.

I’m not grounded at all, and my mind flits between the past (and the loss of my father some 17 years ago) and the immediate future (with Christmas and its usual parade of ghosts) and I find I don’t want to play that game anymore. I want to be here in the now, and that’s where I must begin, with the simplest of walking meditations.

We just returned from a two-day trip to see my wife’s mother in hospital. It was meaningful in so many ways, breaking a long period of estrangement, and getting to meet her as someone she didn’t want to know before. She said, “I don’t know much about you.” I found myself immediately saying, “I’m a good person.”

Funny how I reduce my life to that statement, but I’ve always tried to be good, and I’ve always had an open heart. So I find it easy to open my heart to this ailing relative I’ve never met, as I remember those last weeks with my dad in the hospital. I hope the doctors will be able to help her, and as always, I’m looking for hope because I don’t trust easily where doctors are concerned.

While I’m away, another person who has hurt me and kept me at a distance reaches out, and my love returns to the surface and I open my heart again.

Living with a wide open heart is difficult. So many people can hurt you, but I find it’s who I am, as natural as breathing. Even when I’m sick and run down and don’t have anything to give, I find I can always dig deep again and expose the vulnerable inner self that I both share and protect so fiercely.

I missed most of my doses of my new anti-depressant while I was away, but I’d say rather than feel depressed, I just feel that deep, aching experience of melancholia. It’s a feeling, and when I move from care-taking to coming back to myself, I’m glad to feel something, to know that I’m alive, and not shut down in some numb place. So many times we forget that the ability to feel is a blessing.

So while I know that people find this winter difficult to take, I’m just glad to be out there in the chill grey day, to hear the starlings and ravens and even a towhee chittering at me, taking me to task for the bird feeder that they emptied while we were away.

I read about people rushing around to do their Christmas shopping and mail off their cards, and while I know for some these are important markers of the season, I feel like my markers are stillness, reflection and meditation.

For me, Christmas is thinking about the love I’m so blessed to have, the people who have gone who are still in my heart like it was only yesterday, and the people I am opening my life to after a long period of hibernation.

I don’t have energy, strength, health or even clear thought, but I have an open heart and lots of hope, and sometimes that’s all we need to survive this life.

Many blessings,

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Jane Waterman

Hi, I’m Jane! I create blogs, fiction, art, and adaptive yoga as I seek peace and healing in this strange and sometimes beautiful world. I’ve been chronically ill and probably crazy for 30 years, but I try not to let it stop me!

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4 Responses

  1. If you could only know how much hope you give me, you are a shelter in a difficult and hard world, you are my such an amazing, brave and loving person. I don't have many words at the moment, what I do have is a heart full of love that is yours for now and for all times, for ever and always.

    1. Thank you, Sweetie. You have no idea how much you do for me too, especially when times are a bit tough as they have been lately. Love you, big as the world! xxxx

  2. this really touched me as well. The part about opening your heart even when you've been trodden on and fiercely protecting it as well, really spoke to me. It touched a part of my emotional self that's really wounded right now and looking for love and trying to reach out but feeling like it's not quite a safe place in the world yet to do so. I still feel like a small unloved child most days and it helps me to read this post, even in your own words. Thank you so much for sharing.

    1. Thank you, Tova. I understand what you're saying. When you're a sensitive soul, and prone to loving people unconditionally, however, sometimes it's important to draw back a little and protect yourself. Honour your feelings that it's not a safe place right now. Your heart has that wisdom in spades, and you just have to listen to it. There will come a time when you feel more certain of the 'world' and your place in it, but for now, I think the true wisdom is honouring and protecting that inner child, nurturing them, and giving a gift of loving-kindness to yourself. You deserve your own love too! Take care, and stay in touch. Many blessings, Jane

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